You know how they say that drop the dead weight and you will walk light.

Do not carry things that you don’t need to.

You don’t have to carry things that feel heavy.

etc etc etc

These are all true.

A grudge is just that: weight you choose to carry.
No one else feels it the way you do. No one else helps you hold it.
It sits on your shoulders.

The best thing you can do is let go.

Letting go isn’t about saying what happened was okay.
It’s about deciding you won’t let it weigh you down anymore.
You take the lesson, you set the rest aside, and you keep moving forward.

Because freedom doesn’t come from holding on tighter.
It comes from walking lighter.

Here are some ways that “letting go” can actually look in practice:

1. Name what you’re holding

Write down what (or who) you’re angry with. Be specific. Sometimes, clarity itself brings relief. It shifts the weight from vague heaviness to something you can see and choose to release.

2. Separate the pain from the person

Often, the person isn’t as present in your life as the pain is. The pain lingers because we keep replaying it. Ask yourself: Am I ready to stop giving energy to this replay?

3. Decide what is yours

Take only what belongs to you—the lessons, the insight, the boundary you want to hold going forward. Leave behind what doesn’t belong to you—the other person’s actions, choices, or mistakes. That’s not yours to carry.

4. Create a ritual of release

Symbolic actions help. Burn the letter you wrote but never sent, close the notebook after journaling, exhale deeply while saying “I release this.” The brain responds to symbols and rituals.

5. Replace, don’t just remove

When you let go of weight, fill that space with lightness. Gratitude, creativity, movement, or even silence. Otherwise, the mind tends to go back and pick up the old weight again.

6. Practice, not perfection

Letting go isn’t a one-time event; it’s like setting something down and catching yourself reaching for it again. The “how” is simply practice—each time you feel the grudge creep in, remind yourself: This is not mine to carry anymore.

✨ Think of letting go less as throwing something away and more as setting it down on the side of the road so you can walk farther, freer.

So, what are you letting go of today?

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